Keeping Calm with Energetic Children

Do you feel overwhelmed by the constant needs and wants of your kiddos? Well you are not the only one! They are pretty relentless in what they want and many times the word no becomes muted. They just wont stop until they get what they want, which is not too bad of trait to have in this world. Making sure there wants and needs are heard and met. But they also have to learn that sometimes we dont get what we want right then and there. They have to learn the word patience. And we have to teach them by example to have patience.

You know they really want their favoirte show on, they really want that cookie, or they really want you to just play with them. Many times we say not right now, after this or that. And what happens? They decide to cry and stomp their feet or throw themselves to the ground because they dont understand why the thing they want cant be met right now! And the natural reacation might be to throw a fit with them because they arent responding how you would like them to.

But recently, Ive been practicing and working on my own patience. When my son starts to throw his fit I just close my eyes and take a nice deep breath as soon as he calms down I’ll explain to him the situation and ackwoledge the way he feels. Just let them get it out for a moment, the pain or embarrasment we might feel is only temporary; but the lesson we teach them in those moments will last a lifetime. If we teach them the right way to respond to unpleasing situations they will carry that with them and be able to take pause and slow down before responding. That way they have a more thoughtful reaction instead of a reactive one.

Helpful Hint:

Everytime you start to feel overwhelmed just close your eyes (as long as your not driving) and take a nice slow deep breath. Thinking about blowing out that stress and not holding on to it. If you feel like your holding your breath do this as well. Breathe out the bad and breathe in the good.

I hope this helps you to find more peace and calm in the day to day interactions with our children and those around us. Peace be with you! Its all about what we practice!